We frequently see family caregivers who are running themselves into the ground taking care of their loved ones. Most often it's a spouse who is so devoted that they feel guilty letting someone relieve them for even an hour or two. There are times when the loved one becomes so dependent on their spouse that they will not allow anyone else to take their place. The spouse feels trapped and can get quite desperate.

The solution is to introduce other caregivers (family and professional) early on. Going down the road alone is extremely difficult and not necessary. Others are available and willing to help.

One of our clients helped his first wife through the dying process. She had terminal cancer. When his second wife was diagnosed with a terminal brain disease, he asked us to help him through the coming weeks. Our caregivers bonded with his wife after a short while and he was able to take a 3 hour break every other day. He would bike for awhile and then eat lunch with some friends. He always came back refreshed and ready to carry the 24/7 load.

We were impressed with his attitude and abilities to carry on throughout the entire experience. His wife passed about six months from the time we began helping in the home. His approach was correct and made all the difference for him and for his wife. He was a better caregiver because he took care of himself on a regular basis.